Everyone from family to friends consider themselves relationship experts when dealing with a break up. I know this because I had to sit and listen to all of their advice after my relationship failed. Bristol Palin had a good support group around her and Levi Johnston’s family was by his side also during their ordeal. However, a lot of people go in deep depression after a bad break up because they are not capable to handle this crisis by themselves.
In addition, some people wallow in sadness for weeks. They might play their favorite sad songs over and over and cry like a baby. I knew a friend who went through this same scenario. She would go out and buy her favorite movies, watch them every night and also sift through her old photo albums. If you do this for a short period of time for example, one to two weeks after the split up, then these actions may be good for the soul as you purge the sadness and try to deal with it.
However, you should NOT indulge yourself into this sad state of mind for a long time. It can become very unhealthy for you mentally and physically as you pretend everything is okay.
I know personally that some people fake it and put on an act and try to fool their family and friends that they are over the break up and now they are happy. They act as if they are not bothered by the break up, and that life goes on as normal. They may start dating right way and try to find another girlfriend or boyfriend too soon.
This is just denial, and the unwillingness to feel the sadness and pain that accompanies a failed relationship is not natural.
There are better ways to deal with this situation and here are suggestions:
1. Go Out: This is one method used by Bristol Palin and Levi Johnston after their break up. Get out of the house and enjoy yourself. Make sure your date knows your situation, and that you are going out just for fun and friendship right now.
Now, I must say this….
There are some people who jump out of one relationship and begin dating seriously. I am not suggesting to you to start dating romantically. NO, NO, NO…..you need to give your self more time. However, just going out with someone and having a good time is a huge stress reliever and will help you start the healing process..
2. Hang out with close friends and family. These are people you feel very comfortable around and therefore, you can choose great places to visit such as amusement parks, museum, zoo, movie theater, skating, sports event, concert, billards, bowling…and the list goes on and on.
3. Have a house party! This is one of the best ideas when trying to get over a break up. Invite your friends and ask them to invite some of their friends, too. And who knows? You may meet someone interesting at your house party. It happened to me and we had a wonderful relationship.
4. Start a new hobby or career. Bristol Palin is a new single mother of a beautiful baby boy, Tripp, and she will be working with the National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy and the Candie’s Foundation to inform young people about the negative consequences of teenage pregnancy. Levi Johnston started a modeling career and may be pursuing movie roles.
So, as you can see, Bristol and Levi was mature and strong enough to get on with their lives after their break up.
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