Have you had an argument and said something that you did not mean to say? Remember that the tongue is the most dangerous weapon on earth! It has caused more harm than anything in the history of the world. Or have you had a fight with your lover over something that could be solved with a calm, intelligent conversation instead of a heated battle? In this article, I will reveal the basic foundation of relationships and how you can use these to get back with your ex after an argument.
First of all, arguments are just part of relationships. Why? Because opposites attract and your differences probably what attracted you to each other in the first place.
Second, when we are under stress, we tend to either (1) fight or (2) leave the situation. It’s just part of our DNA.
Women handle stress and arguments better than men. Women tend to gather with other females to vent their frustrations with each other. This is a good way to release the stress especially with a friend who is trusting and understanding. Men, on the other hand, wants to try to “fix” the problem and men rarely get together with their buddies to vent about their relationship.
Blow ups usually blow over. We grump at one another, maybe do the silent treatment for a few hours or a day and then everything smoothes out and we’re back on an even keel. But what if you had a really big argument and heated words designed to wound because that’s what we do in arguments hit their mark and the relationship was affected to the point someone walked out, calling it quits.
The huge, “I can’t stand to look at you another second” type of arguments, are usually a result of a lot of smaller issues that weren’t dealt with or resentments left unchecked that brewed into bigger than either of you intended them to become.
For whatever reason, the fight happened. It’s out there, hanging in the air between you and your ex. It’s his fault, it’s her fault does it really matter when you want that person back in your life?
So how to do you get back together with your ex lover after an argument?
You need to start over and work out what caused the argument, but before you can begin again and reach the discussion point, you have to clear the air. Women need to spend a little time with their girlfriends and just enjoy each others company. Men also needs to get together with their buddies for a good game or just have a cool “guys night out”. By getting away from each other, you let your defense mechanisms down so you can talk with each other peacefully.
Apologize…yes…both parties need to apologize! Sometimes when people appear cold and indifferent to what you’re saying, it’s because they’re masking the wound your words inflicted. Always begin by saying you’re sorry not only for what you said, but that you’re sorry for how your words made them feel.
Don’t let pride get in the way! When you apologize to someone, it’s not like you’re shouldering all the responsibility for what happened in the argument. It only means that you’re stepping away from the issue for a moment and looking beyond that to say you love them and didn’t mean to hurt them during the argument.
After you say you’re sorry, start a conversation by asking them how they feel about the argument, what they believe you meant.
Your lover and partner cannot see your heart. They can only hear the hateful things that is coming out of your mouth. You know you did mean everything you said that why it is crucial to apologize if you want o get your ex back.
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