Have the excitement in your marriage or relationship gone dead? Would you rather spend time watching a snail crawl instead of spending time with your partner? If so…Houston we have a problem! When bread gets stale, we throw it out. Unfortunately, the same thing happens with relationships. The newness wears off, we fall into a rut and we either dump someone or we get dumped. In this article, I will reveal to you why marriages and relationships go dead, how to revive them and ultimately get your ex lover back!
First of all, what causes a marriage or relationship to go stale?
One of the main reasons is growth. You and your spouse stop growing as separate people. You both get so wrapped up in the life as partners, you cease to live your own life. You no longer have interesting things to share. You both become boring.
Remember what brought you two together in the first place? It was your differences…not the the things you have in common. If everyone was the same, this would be a terrible and depressing place to live.
Letting yourself get stale is one of the worst things that can happen in a relationship. You no longer seem exciting to your partner. When newness wears off, there’s a myth that as time marches on, relationships grow comfortable and there’s no need for excitement.
This is not true. This is also one of the top reasons people commit infidelity! People go looking for that newness, that spark they feel they lost. They find it with another person.
So how do you spice up your marriage or relationship?
Tip #1: Emotional Revival
Remember when you both always looked at each other while talking? Remember how you listened and paid attention to everything your lover said? You now rarely listen or pay attention. And so have your partner! You got caught up in a cycle. However, it’s not too late to break that cycle even though you may not be together with your ex at this exact moment.
You can recharge that spark and get the staleness out of your relationship! Entice your ex back into your life again only this time with better results than the first go around. Relationships have to be nurtured no matter how long you’ve been together.
Tip #2: Get Creative…Spice It Up
Romance and time away is important to both men and women. True, romance means two completely different things to the opposite sex, but even men want romance in their life. Romance is simply a way of saying ‘I love you’ through actions.
Here are some ways to bring the life back in your marriage or relationship:
(1) If you can afford it, ask your ex if he or she will go on a getaway with you so that you can relax. Don’t mention that you want to ‘talk it out.’ You won’t get anywhere if you spoil the moment!
Tell them you want to spend time with them and just enjoy their company. The getaway doesn’t have to be to an exotic location, you can go to a bed and breakfast in a nearby city or spend the weekend at a nice hotel.
When you’re alone together, tell your ex the important things you’ve always loved about them. Again, don’t mention the argument. Instead, focus on appreciating them. When people feel loved, they let down their guard. Don’t be surprised if they bring up the argument and want to work though the issue or if you end up making up faster than you thought was possible.
(2)Lingerie! Men absolutely LOVES lingerie on their lover. And women LOVES foreplay. So girls, head over to Victoria’s Secret and shop for a sexy outfit with some cute high heels. And guys, if you have the body, show it! if not, you can lose a little weight and get toned fast or just showcase yourself in a new robe or tank top with matching boxers.
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