5 Proven Reasons Men Cheat and How To Prevent Their Infidelity
Tiger Woods, John Edwards, Jesse James, Bruce Springsteen and Tiki Barber…what does all of these celebrities have in common? They all cheated on their wives and have hurt many people because of their infidelity. Personally, I do not believe adultery happens in healthy and happy marriages. A good marriage is like a house built on a solid immovable foundation. No matter how powerful the wind or storm, the house still stands!
However, if the foundation of the house is cracked or not leveled, there’s going to be problems trying to get it repair. This is the same scenario with a marriage that has experienced infidelity. There is something missing in the marriage and therefore it is doomed to fail.
So why do men cheat? A recent survey was conducted by Counselor M. Gary
Neuman involving 200 cheating and non-cheating husbands and here are the 5 top reasons:
48% of men rated emotional dissatisfaction as the primary reason they cheated.
The problem is that men are less likely than women to express these feelings, so you won’t always know when your guy is in need of a little affirmation. “Most men consider it unmanly to ask for a pat on the back, which is why their emotional needs are often overlooked,” Neuman says. “But you can create a marital culture of appreciation and thoughtfulness — and once you set the tone, he’s likely to match it.”
77% of cheating men have a good friend who cheated.
Hanging around friends who stray makes cheating seem normal and legitimizes it as a possibility. The message he’s subconsciously telling himself: My friend is a good guy who happens to be cheating on his wife. I guess even the best of us do it. Build your social circle around happily married couples that share your values — it’ll create an environment that supports marriage.
40% of cheating men met the other woman at work.
“Oftentimes the woman he cheats with at the office is someone who praises him, looks up to him, and compliments his efforts,” Neuman says. Luckily, there’s a clear warning sign that your husband is getting a little too cozy with a colleague: If he praises or mentions the name of a female coworker more than he would a male counterpart, your antennae should go up — and it’s time for the two of you to set boundaries about what is and isn’t okay at work, Neuman says. Is it acceptable for him to work late if it’s only him and her? Can they travel together to conferences? Have dinners out to discuss a project? Ask him what he’d feel comfortable with you doing with a male colleague.
Only 12% of cheating men said their mistress was more physically attractive than their wife.
In other words, a man doesn’t stray because he thinks he’ll get better sex with a better-looking body. “In most cases, he’s cheating to fill an emotional void,” Neuman says. “He feels a connection with the other woman, and sex comes along for the ride.” If you’re worried about infidelity, focus on making your relationship more loving and connected, not on getting your body just right or mastering new sexual positions.
Only 6% of cheating men had sex with a woman after meeting her that same day or night.
Actually, 73 percent of men got to know the other woman for more than a month before they cheated. This means that you may have time to see the warning signs before infidelity occurs — you might even see it coming before he does.
So how can you prevent your man from cheating? Here are some tips!
Keep an eye out for these common signals:
1. He spends more time away from home, 2. stops asking for sex, 3. picks fights more frequently and 4. avoids your calls. Your gut reaction may be to confront him, but most men will deny even thinking about cheating — especially if nothing physical has occurred yet. Instead, take charge of what you can control — your own behavior — and take the lead in bringing your marriage to a better place.
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